Things That Belong In A Uterus
Episode 37 | Advice Line: Sex-Positive Christians, Condom Problems, Praying Away The Gay
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Listener questions and comments on erectile dysfunction directly related to condoms, Christians doing their best to be sex-positive, and the “ex-gay” movement (which produces Shara’s first rant on the show).
Shara and I also talk about some upcoming audio erotica that we’re doing for Ravenous Romance, the re-release of Episode 36 with Shara doing the female dialogue, and the show’s first birthday. Also, Shara gets her birthday spankings on the air
Show Links:
The post that inspired Questioner’s comment: Christian Blogger Claims 70% of Women Don’t Deserve Orgasms.
Article from TheMarriageBed.com: What’s OK/What’s Not (according to the Bible)
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Christian Blogger Claims 70% of Women Don't Deserve Orgasms
UPDATE: They made pretty quick work of deleting my comment (below) along with several others that didn’t tow the line. I thought I was actually pretty polite, and so were the other comments that got deleted. Oh well, a few people found this site through that article, and I guess a flicker of light is better than none at all.
No, that’s not exactly what she said, but it’s what this article boils down to. Presented as an exhibit for the prosecution, since once in a while the Sexual Dark Age raises its hand. Here are a few snippets, but please feel free to read the whole article over at Christianity Today, entitled “The Cult of the Orgasm.” If there’s a cult, now I’m pissed. I was not notified, and thus never given the opportunity to run for cult leader.
How should Christian women respond to the vibrator trend and its broader message of sexual empowerment?
…First, a few observations. A vibrator is a replacement — a simulator, if you will. It’s not a man, but it’s meant to resemble one. It’s straightforward, makes no demands, produces fairly consistent results. And it doesn’t smell, make rude noises, or wince when you cry. But neither can it hold you, stroke your hair, or make you coffee…
I believe the Japanese are working on one that does all that and mows the lawn too, actually.
…But not only is masturbation inherently focused on the needs of the self, it also involves trying to provide for those needs by oneself, instead of trusting God to know best whether the sexual intimacies of marriage are truly needed or best at the present stage…
If you really believe, how ’bout you fluff the muffin yourself and let him worry about shit like climate change, starvation and homelessness in supposedly civilized nations.
…Since masturbation without fantasy is rare if not impossible, the reasoning goes, it will always involve something clearly condemned by Jesus. Ergo, masturbation is sin…
I’m only kinda mocking here. For those who didn’t grow up with it, this article effectively embodies what fat old men have been selling to Christians for over a thousand years now. That’s the really scary part: she’s dead serious, and millions of pour souls agree with her. Every time I read something like this I feel like Rod Serling’s looking over my shoulder.
I, predictably, couldn’t resist commenting as follows:
It’s always sad to see a woman perpetuating religious misogyny. Physically AND psychologically masturbation is actually an extremely healthy activity. A lack of masturbation has been shown to significantly increase a man’s risk of prostate cancer, and since so many women passively accept lousy sex from their men (70% fake orgasms) you’re suggesting that 70% of women go without orgasms completely.
If this is what your god wants, tell me this…why did he give you a clitoris? It’s the only part of the human body (male or female) out of thousands whose sole purpose is sexual pleasure. It’s not normally stimulated through intercourse. Why do you have it at all? Was it a mistake?
The truth is that masturbation is healthy for the body, mind and spirit, and people who masturbate regularly are happier and healthier than those who don’t.
Please feel free to check out Episode 7 of my podcast, Ending the Sexual Dark Age, entitled (quite accurately) “Masturbation Is Good For You”
So, what do you guys think?
Paganism/Wicca and BDSM Ethics
I just read an interesting article over at Eden Cafe about the Wiccan Rede and BDSM. It’s always seemed blatantly obvious that BDSM falls well within the scope of “An it harm none, do what thou will,” so I was a little taken aback that there would even be a question. Maybe that’s just because I’ve known more than my fair share of freaky Wiccans. It seems, however, that Wicca is officially a part of Big Religion for at least some number of the faithful.
Now this is a spot of contention for some of the non-kink friendly Wiccans I know. They do not believe that you can abide by this notion and practice BDSM.
I think any Wiccan who believes BDSM violates the rede because of their personal definition of “harm” is falling into the same destructive mindset as Christians who vilify homosexuals because of their bible. And, frankly, I expect more from Wiccans. I remember a time not so long ago when Wicca was about shrugging off the oppressive bullshit so ingrained in Big Religion. This is one of the unfortunate side effects of a “belief system” becoming a “religion” in the first place.
Once it’s a religion some people are going to start rules-lawyering instead of focusing on the spirit of the rules, and at that point you immediately start burying yourself in your own bullshit. It’s not about the words, it’s about the intent.
The elegant simplicity of the Wiccan Rede should prevent it from being misinterpreted. It genuinely saddens me to see the central tenet of the most sexually accepting religion in the modern world turned into a tool of sexual discrimination by any number of people. I suppose it was only a matter of time.
Episode 5 | The Shame Game
This episode examines shame as it pollutes modern sexuality, primarily in relation to the efforts of the Religion Industrial Complex. Fair warning, this is an extremely critical look at the institution of religion that some listeners have described as a rant.








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