Episode 70 | Budget Bondage For Beginners And Other Cost Conscious Kink

Episode 70 | Budget Bondage For Beginners And Other Cost Conscious Kink

A listener request for advice on bondage gear that doesn't cost a fortune led us on a winding road that ended with a new sponsor! This episode begins with a discussion of "pervertables" that can be found in various...

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Episode 57 | BDSM and Virginity, Taking Constructive Criticism As A Submissive, Books for New Dominants, Hot For Teacher

Episode 57 | BDSM and Virginity, Taking Constructive Criticism As A Submissive, Books for New Dominants, Hot For Teacher

Listener mail topics include a question about fetishizing the scenario of a sexually experienced woman teaching an inexperienced guy how to fuck, exploring the psychology of taking constructive criticism as a submissive, books for new dominants who want to...

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Homework | Sexy Checklists

As discussed in Episode 45, your homework this time around is to fill out a BDSM Checklist to show yourself where your kinky desires do or don't lie. This can be a lot of fun if you do it...

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Episode 44 | Advice Line: Swinging Etiquette, Squirting, Kinky Punishment Play

Episode 44 | Advice Line: Swinging Etiquette, Squirting, Kinky Punishment Play

Listener questions from a swing-curious couple who had a chat with prospective playmates go sideways when boundaries were ignored, a woman with an issue that pops up at the brink of orgasm, a woman who wants to know what...

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Episode 42 | BDSM Guide: Feminism and Sexual Submission

Episode 42 | BDSM Guide: Feminism and Sexual Submission

As we return from hiatus we reply to a listener's questions about her mental conflict between her feminist ideals and the concept of sexual submission. We also announce the digital re-release of the collected works of Tree of Shadows, J.V.'s...

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Episode 40 | BDSM Guide: Sexual Dominance Part 2, Communication, Reading Your Sub, Bondage, Hair Pulling, Giving Orders, Throat Fucking and Pain Play for New Doms

Episode 40 | BDSM Guide: Sexual Dominance Part 2, Communication, Reading Your Sub, Bondage, Hair Pulling, Giving Orders, Throat Fucking and Pain Play for New Doms

Part 2 of our guide to sexual dominance focuses on tips and tricks for introducing BDSM to your play time without doing anything intimidating or obnoxious. This episode covers how a dominant can establish and enhance their power through...

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Homework | Do Something Kinky

Your homework for episode 40, should you choose to accept it, is to do something kinky that you've never done before, or that you've never done with your current playmate. We're not encouraging any outright freakishness, but we'd like...

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Episode 38 | BDSM Guide: Sexual Dominance Part 1, Getting Your Head In The Right Space

Episode 38 | BDSM Guide: Sexual Dominance Part 1, Getting Your Head In The Right Space

The first installment of our guide on how to be a sexual dominant, the philosophy of dominance, dom space and why it's awesome, understanding what power the dominant does and doesn't have, discipline vs. punishment, and a bunch of...

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Episode 35 | Advice Line: Painful Anal, Menstrual Sex, BDSM Mentoring, Female Masturbation for Beginners

Episode 35 | Advice Line: Painful Anal, Menstrual Sex, BDSM Mentoring, Female Masturbation for Beginners

Listener questions and comments on topics including terrible sex advice, accidental anal, the challenges of a small woman taking a big cock in the ass, health benefits of menstrual sex and easy ways to deal with the mess, BDSM...

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Episode 30 | Advice Line:  Anal & Hemorrhoids, Handling Girth With Your Mouth, Sex & New Parents, The Down Side of Safe Words In Kinky Play,

Episode 30 | Advice Line: Anal & Hemorrhoids, Handling Girth With Your Mouth, Sex & New Parents, The Down Side of Safe Words In Kinky Play,

Topics include getting laid as a new mom when dad isn't being terribly helpful, how to comfortably deal with a big dick in the mouth (and in the back door with hemorrhoids as a complication), a discussion on the...

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Episode 28 | Advice Line: Bi-Bashing Gays, Soft-Selling Your Kinky Side, A Sexual Fresh Start, Teaching A Guy To Be A Dominant

Episode 28 | Advice Line: Bi-Bashing Gays, Soft-Selling Your Kinky Side, A Sexual Fresh Start, Teaching A Guy To Be A Dominant

Topics include bisexuality, online dating, introducing a vanilla husband to sexual dominance, re-stoking the sexual fires of a relationship and dealing with potential new playmates who expect a full blown Dominatrix as soon as a woman mentions kink. Show Links: Kink-positive...

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Episode 19 | BDSM Basics Part 2: Negotiating Scenes, Fetish Parties & Clubs, Introducing BDSM To Your Relationship, Listener Questions On Kink

Episode 19 | BDSM Basics Part 2: Negotiating Scenes, Fetish Parties & Clubs, Introducing BDSM To Your Relationship, Listener Questions On Kink

A wrap up on the most basic concepts of BDSM including group play, fetish clubs, negotiating scenes and the meaning of the word "fetish," as well as a couple kink related listener mail items. Show Links: Fetlife.com J.V. on Fetlife Shara on Fetlife Direct...

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Episode 17 | BDSM Basics Part 1: What ‘BDSM’ Means, Marquis DuSade, Sadism vs. Sadomasochism, Safe Words, Munches, BDSM Porn

Episode 17 | BDSM Basics Part 1: What ‘BDSM’ Means, Marquis DuSade, Sadism vs. Sadomasochism, Safe Words, Munches, BDSM Porn

A beginner's guide to understanding BDSM. This jumbo sized episode covers the definitions of: the acronym "BDSM", Bondage and Discipline, Dominance and Submission, Sadism & Masochism as well as Sadomasochism. We also talk about soft limits, hard limits, the...

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Episode 9 | Advice Line: Curing Prostatitis, Masturbation Problems, Introducing Kink To Your Bedroom

Episode 9 | Advice Line: Curing Prostatitis, Masturbation Problems, Introducing Kink To Your Bedroom

Listener comments and questions covering another health benefit resulting from guys burping the worm on a regular basis, advice for a girl who can only climax with a man and can't get herself off, a guy coping with a...

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