Episode 94 | Dungeon Night Debrief (Part 1) – Desire 2017 Takeover – Recorded With A Live Kinky Audience

Episode 94 | Dungeon Night Debrief (Part 1) – Desire 2017 Takeover – Recorded With A Live Kinky Audience

This year's Desire Resort takeover brought a new and improved Dungeon Night, and a couple dozen perverts decided to join our live audience recording the next day...where we were able to do an absinthe tasting thanks to the generosity...

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Episode 92 | Folsom Street Fair Edition, Part 1

Episode 92 | Folsom Street Fair Edition, Part 1

After Folsom Street Fair, we sat down with our friends to talk about the sights and scenes of the weekend. We talk more about Twisted Windows, especially Saki & Mayu's intense shibari performance, though the word "shibari" alone fails entirely to do...

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Episode 91 | Hotties Under The Collar: The Submissives Record Their Own Episode

Episode 91 | Hotties Under The Collar: The Submissives Record Their Own Episode

While we were in San Francisco for Folsom Street Fair, Shara and the other submissives recorded their own episode on Saturday evening while the doms were cooking dinner and otherwise entertaining themselves.  They spend a good bit of time unpacking...

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Episode 85 | LOTSS 279 Desire Takeover 2016 Recap & Swingset 7th Anniversary

Episode 85 | LOTSS 279 Desire Takeover 2016 Recap & Swingset 7th Anniversary

In this supersize episode, Shara and I join our friends from Life on the Swingset to reminisce about our Desire Resort takeover back in November. This is also a special Swingset episode, as it marks the show's seventh anniversary! The...

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Episode 80 | Dungeon Desire DM Roundtable

Episode 80 | Dungeon Desire DM Roundtable

On November 9th, the disco at Desire Resort became a dungeon for the first time and it was an amazing night. Shara and I could never have pulled it off without the support and assistance of several other kinky...

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Pumpkin The Gimp

If only I had a front porch...

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Kinky Reindeer

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Asymmetry Of Desire In BDSM Play And Swinging

A friend of ours from the Desire trip recently wrote a post on asymmetrical swinging over at Life on the Swingset. That post inspired Shara and I to unpack some of our experiences from Desire and during that process...

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Kneel For Mistress Like A Good Boy

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Slice of A Flogging

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Has She Been Good Or Bad?

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Episode 63 | Back From Desire

Episode 63 | Back From Desire

Shara and I just spent a week in paradise at Swingset Takes Desire 2014, and this episode is our stream-of-consciousness wrap up of the trip and return to regular podcasting...for realsies this time. Please take a few moments to fill...

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Episode 59 | Talking Dirty, Overbearing Parents, Brinking Kinky Back When The Sex Gets Lame

Episode 59 | Talking Dirty, Overbearing Parents, Brinking Kinky Back When The Sex Gets Lame

A concerned boyfriend is looking for tips to help his girl stand up to her controlling parents, a submissive needs help getting comfortable with talking dirty, and another submissive wants to bring sexy back to her marriage by bringing...

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Episode 57 | BDSM and Virginity, Taking Constructive Criticism As A Submissive, Books for New Dominants, Hot For Teacher

Episode 57 | BDSM and Virginity, Taking Constructive Criticism As A Submissive, Books for New Dominants, Hot For Teacher

Listener mail topics include a question about fetishizing the scenario of a sexually experienced woman teaching an inexperienced guy how to fuck, exploring the psychology of taking constructive criticism as a submissive, books for new dominants who want to...

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Sexy Slavegirl Getting Flogged

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Master Always Understands

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Sex Between Two Dominants

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Sex Bruises

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I Really Was

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Episode 44 | Advice Line: Swinging Etiquette, Squirting, Kinky Punishment Play

Episode 44 | Advice Line: Swinging Etiquette, Squirting, Kinky Punishment Play

Listener questions from a swing-curious couple who had a chat with prospective playmates go sideways when boundaries were ignored, a woman with an issue that pops up at the brink of orgasm, a woman who wants to know what...

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Episode 42 | BDSM Guide: Feminism and Sexual Submission

Episode 42 | BDSM Guide: Feminism and Sexual Submission

As we return from hiatus we reply to a listener's questions about her mental conflict between her feminist ideals and the concept of sexual submission. We also announce the digital re-release of the collected works of Tree of Shadows, J.V.'s...

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Episode 40 | BDSM Guide: Sexual Dominance Part 2, Communication, Reading Your Sub, Bondage, Hair Pulling, Giving Orders, Throat Fucking and Pain Play for New Doms

Episode 40 | BDSM Guide: Sexual Dominance Part 2, Communication, Reading Your Sub, Bondage, Hair Pulling, Giving Orders, Throat Fucking and Pain Play for New Doms

Part 2 of our guide to sexual dominance focuses on tips and tricks for introducing BDSM to your play time without doing anything intimidating or obnoxious. This episode covers how a dominant can establish and enhance their power through...

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Episode 38 | BDSM Guide: Sexual Dominance Part 1, Getting Your Head In The Right Space

Episode 38 | BDSM Guide: Sexual Dominance Part 1, Getting Your Head In The Right Space

The first installment of our guide on how to be a sexual dominant, the philosophy of dominance, dom space and why it's awesome, understanding what power the dominant does and doesn't have, discipline vs. punishment, and a bunch of...

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Episode 31 | Swinging Part 2:  BDSM, Single Swingers, Bisexuality, Open Relationships

Episode 31 | Swinging Part 2: BDSM, Single Swingers, Bisexuality, Open Relationships

We're joined once again by Cooper and Ginger from Life on the Swingset for a lively discussion on ethical non-monogamy that covers topics including BDSM in the swing community, single swingers and the different challenges faced by men and...

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Paganism/Wicca and BDSM Ethics

I just read an interesting article over at Eden Cafe about the Wiccan Rede and BDSM. It's always seemed blatantly obvious that BDSM falls well within the scope of "An it harm none, do what thou will," so...

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Episode 28 | Advice Line: Bi-Bashing Gays, Soft-Selling Your Kinky Side, A Sexual Fresh Start, Teaching A Guy To Be A Dominant

Episode 28 | Advice Line: Bi-Bashing Gays, Soft-Selling Your Kinky Side, A Sexual Fresh Start, Teaching A Guy To Be A Dominant

Topics include bisexuality, online dating, introducing a vanilla husband to sexual dominance, re-stoking the sexual fires of a relationship and dealing with potential new playmates who expect a full blown Dominatrix as soon as a woman mentions kink. Show Links: Kink-positive...

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Episode 20 | Audio Erotica “The Taking of Ariel”

Episode 20 | Audio Erotica “The Taking of Ariel”

A sensual tale of erotic fantasy introducing the World of Aeodar, a publication announcement for J.V.'s short story "Breakfast at Jackie's" in Mira Paul's Sugar & Spice (Ravenous Romance), and a bit of inspirational heavy metal from J.V.'s archives. Show...

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Episode 19 | BDSM Basics Part 2: Negotiating Scenes, Fetish Parties & Clubs, Introducing BDSM To Your Relationship, Listener Questions On Kink

Episode 19 | BDSM Basics Part 2: Negotiating Scenes, Fetish Parties & Clubs, Introducing BDSM To Your Relationship, Listener Questions On Kink

A wrap up on the most basic concepts of BDSM including group play, fetish clubs, negotiating scenes and the meaning of the word "fetish," as well as a couple kink related listener mail items. Show Links: Fetlife.com J.V. on Fetlife Shara on Fetlife Direct...

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Episode 17 | BDSM Basics Part 1: What ‘BDSM’ Means, Marquis DuSade, Sadism vs. Sadomasochism, Safe Words, Munches, BDSM Porn

Episode 17 | BDSM Basics Part 1: What ‘BDSM’ Means, Marquis DuSade, Sadism vs. Sadomasochism, Safe Words, Munches, BDSM Porn

A beginner's guide to understanding BDSM. This jumbo sized episode covers the definitions of: the acronym "BDSM", Bondage and Discipline, Dominance and Submission, Sadism & Masochism as well as Sadomasochism. We also talk about soft limits, hard limits, the...

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Episode 9 | Advice Line: Curing Prostatitis, Masturbation Problems, Introducing Kink To Your Bedroom

Episode 9 | Advice Line: Curing Prostatitis, Masturbation Problems, Introducing Kink To Your Bedroom

Listener comments and questions covering another health benefit resulting from guys burping the worm on a regular basis, advice for a girl who can only climax with a man and can't get herself off, a guy coping with a...

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