Episode 94 | Dungeon Night Debrief (Part 1) – Desire 2017 Takeover – Recorded With A Live Kinky Audience

Episode 94 | Dungeon Night Debrief (Part 1) – Desire 2017 Takeover – Recorded With A Live Kinky Audience

This year's Desire Resort takeover brought a new and improved Dungeon Night, and a couple dozen perverts decided to join our live audience recording the next day...where we were able to do an absinthe tasting thanks to the generosity...

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Episode 93 | Folsom Street Fair Edition, Part 2

Episode 93 | Folsom Street Fair Edition, Part 2

Part 2 of our post-fair discussion. In the conclusion we talk more about our Saturday night play party (including Sexxypixie signing Shara's ass), vibrators with rolling unlock codes, and everyone gets together to give Gabriella her birthday spankings.   Thanks to...

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Episode 92 | Folsom Street Fair Edition, Part 1

Episode 92 | Folsom Street Fair Edition, Part 1

After Folsom Street Fair, we sat down with our friends to talk about the sights and scenes of the weekend. We talk more about Twisted Windows, especially Saki & Mayu's intense shibari performance, though the word "shibari" alone fails entirely to do...

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Episode 91 | Hotties Under The Collar: The Submissives Record Their Own Episode

Episode 91 | Hotties Under The Collar: The Submissives Record Their Own Episode

While we were in San Francisco for Folsom Street Fair, Shara and the other submissives recorded their own episode on Saturday evening while the doms were cooking dinner and otherwise entertaining themselves.  They spend a good bit of time unpacking...

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Episode 90 | Talking Kinky Sex With Tristan Taormino

Episode 90 | Talking Kinky Sex With Tristan Taormino

Podcaster, Sex educator and prolific pornographer Tristan Taormino, who also happens to be our guest co-host for our upcoming Desire Resort takeover in November, joins us to talk about kinky sex and how she likes it. This episode was originally...

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Episode 89 | Sexy Times In San Francisco and An Erotic Dinner With Our Gourmet Life

Episode 89 | Sexy Times In San Francisco and An Erotic Dinner With Our Gourmet Life

We talk about some of the highlights of our sexy times in San Francisco, including an excellent evening spent at an erotic dinner hosted by Our Gourmet Life Chef Chris Hubbard   Listen to this episode for a discount code that...

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Episode 87 | Interview With Cooper S Beckett On His New Book “Approaching The Swingularity”

Episode 87 | Interview With Cooper S Beckett On His New Book “Approaching The Swingularity”

We've been doing some traveling this year, and part of that has been visiting new and interesting fetish clubs. In this episode we talk about our time at: Our sexy friend Cooper S Beckett from Life on the Swingset joins...

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Episode 86 | Fetish Club Reviews: Choice Social and Galleria Domain 2

Episode 86 | Fetish Club Reviews: Choice Social and Galleria Domain 2

We've been doing some traveling this year, and part of that has been visiting new and interesting fetish clubs. In this episode we talk about our time at: Galleria Domain 2 in Chicago Choice Social Club in Rhode Island We were also...

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Episode 85 | LOTSS 279 Desire Takeover 2016 Recap & Swingset 7th Anniversary

Episode 85 | LOTSS 279 Desire Takeover 2016 Recap & Swingset 7th Anniversary

In this supersize episode, Shara and I join our friends from Life on the Swingset to reminisce about our Desire Resort takeover back in November. This is also a special Swingset episode, as it marks the show's seventh anniversary! The...

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Episode 84 | Interview with Midori (Part 2) On Her Female Dominance Intensive: ForteFemme, Our New Toys From Fetish Fair Flea

Episode 84 | Interview with Midori (Part 2) On Her Female Dominance Intensive: ForteFemme, Our New Toys From Fetish Fair Flea

During our trip to Fetish Fair Fleamarket, we had the opportunity to sit down with legendary kink educator Midori for one of our favorite interviews ever. This episode includes the conclusion of that interview, in which we talk about ForteFemme, Midori's...

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Episode 83 | Interview with Midori (Part 1) On Kinky Archetypes And The True Meaning of BDSM

Episode 83 | Interview with Midori (Part 1) On Kinky Archetypes And The True Meaning of BDSM

During our trip to Fetish Fair Fleamarket, we had the opportunity to sit down with legendary kink educator Midori for one of our favorite interviews ever. This episode includes most of that interview (more to come next week). We talk...

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Episode 82 | PTSD & BDSM

Episode 82 | PTSD & BDSM

Our long-time medical advisor finally joins us on the show to continue a discussion about PTSD & BDSM play that began a few episodes ago with a listener question. Sadly, due to some technical issues, we had to use the...

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Episode 81 | New Year, New Studio

Episode 81 | New Year, New Studio

After a crazy holiday season, we ring in the new year with a new studio setup, and we hope you love the new sound as much as we do. Please let us know what you think! Listen to this episode...

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Episode 80 | Dungeon Desire DM Roundtable

Episode 80 | Dungeon Desire DM Roundtable

On November 9th, the disco at Desire Resort became a dungeon for the first time and it was an amazing night. Shara and I could never have pulled it off without the support and assistance of several other kinky...

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Episode 79 | PTSD Triggers in BDSM Play, and The Perils of Looking For Dominants Online

Episode 79 | PTSD Triggers in BDSM Play, and The Perils of Looking For Dominants Online

A submissive from Down Under asks questions about navigating the realm of BDSM when you have PTSD from sexual and physical abuse, including looking for a dominant online. Listen to this episode for a discount code that will score you...

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Episode 78 | Orgasms On Command

Episode 78 | Orgasms On Command

A listener question about orgasms on command inspired an impromptu recording in paradise, which later inspired (and is included in) this episode. Honestly, it was a blast to both record and edit this one. Listen to this episode for a...

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Episode 74 | Kinky Mail Bag

Episode 74 | Kinky Mail Bag

Ginger & The Prof join us again to pitch in discussing some kinky listener mail topics, including getting the confidence up to attend your first munch, dealing with sexual monotony when your kinky play becomes so predictable it feels...

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Episode 73 | Getting Kinky In Paradise With Ginger & The Prof

Episode 73 | Getting Kinky In Paradise With Ginger & The Prof

Ginger & The Prof from Life on the Swingset (and their own upcoming podcast Intellectual Foreplay--we can't wait!) join us to reminisce about our trip to Desire in April...and plot what sorts of trouble we can cause on our upcoming...

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Episode 70 | Budget Bondage For Beginners And Other Cost Conscious Kink

Episode 70 | Budget Bondage For Beginners And Other Cost Conscious Kink

A listener request for advice on bondage gear that doesn't cost a fortune led us on a winding road that ended with a new sponsor! This episode begins with a discussion of "pervertables" that can be found in various...

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Episode 66 | Same-Sexploration, Munch Shyness & Stinky Cowboys

Episode 66 | Same-Sexploration, Munch Shyness & Stinky Cowboys

Topics include a younger guy with concerns about being attracted to other guys, a woman wondering how to work up the courage to go to a kinky munch, and a cowboy getting kicked out of bed for an odor...

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Episode 62 | Cum and Chemo, Swallowing Advice, Toning Down Your Dominant Side, Swinging In Cancun

Episode 62 | Cum and Chemo, Swallowing Advice, Toning Down Your Dominant Side, Swinging In Cancun

A guy with stage 4 cancer needs to know if his submissive will be swallowing his chemotherapy drugs along with his jizz (see link below), advice on toning down your dominant side when it's too much for your partner,...

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Episode 59 | Talking Dirty, Overbearing Parents, Brinking Kinky Back When The Sex Gets Lame

Episode 59 | Talking Dirty, Overbearing Parents, Brinking Kinky Back When The Sex Gets Lame

A concerned boyfriend is looking for tips to help his girl stand up to her controlling parents, a submissive needs help getting comfortable with talking dirty, and another submissive wants to bring sexy back to her marriage by bringing...

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Episode 57 | BDSM and Virginity, Taking Constructive Criticism As A Submissive, Books for New Dominants, Hot For Teacher

Episode 57 | BDSM and Virginity, Taking Constructive Criticism As A Submissive, Books for New Dominants, Hot For Teacher

Listener mail topics include a question about fetishizing the scenario of a sexually experienced woman teaching an inexperienced guy how to fuck, exploring the psychology of taking constructive criticism as a submissive, books for new dominants who want to...

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Episode 45 | BDSM Advice: Collars, BDSM Checklists, Assertive Submission, Rape Fantasies

Episode 45 | BDSM Advice: Collars, BDSM Checklists, Assertive Submission, Rape Fantasies

Kink-oriented listener questions on topics including collars in BDSM play and relationships, where to find BDSM checklists and how to get the most out of them, how a submissive can be assertive about getting kinky play without acting dominant,...

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Episode 44 | Advice Line: Swinging Etiquette, Squirting, Kinky Punishment Play

Episode 44 | Advice Line: Swinging Etiquette, Squirting, Kinky Punishment Play

Listener questions from a swing-curious couple who had a chat with prospective playmates go sideways when boundaries were ignored, a woman with an issue that pops up at the brink of orgasm, a woman who wants to know what...

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Episode 42 | BDSM Guide: Feminism and Sexual Submission

Episode 42 | BDSM Guide: Feminism and Sexual Submission

As we return from hiatus we reply to a listener's questions about her mental conflict between her feminist ideals and the concept of sexual submission. We also announce the digital re-release of the collected works of Tree of Shadows, J.V.'s...

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Episode 40 | BDSM Guide: Sexual Dominance Part 2, Communication, Reading Your Sub, Bondage, Hair Pulling, Giving Orders, Throat Fucking and Pain Play for New Doms

Episode 40 | BDSM Guide: Sexual Dominance Part 2, Communication, Reading Your Sub, Bondage, Hair Pulling, Giving Orders, Throat Fucking and Pain Play for New Doms

Part 2 of our guide to sexual dominance focuses on tips and tricks for introducing BDSM to your play time without doing anything intimidating or obnoxious. This episode covers how a dominant can establish and enhance their power through...

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Episode 38 | BDSM Guide: Sexual Dominance Part 1, Getting Your Head In The Right Space

Episode 38 | BDSM Guide: Sexual Dominance Part 1, Getting Your Head In The Right Space

The first installment of our guide on how to be a sexual dominant, the philosophy of dominance, dom space and why it's awesome, understanding what power the dominant does and doesn't have, discipline vs. punishment, and a bunch of...

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Episode 28 | Advice Line: Bi-Bashing Gays, Soft-Selling Your Kinky Side, A Sexual Fresh Start, Teaching A Guy To Be A Dominant

Episode 28 | Advice Line: Bi-Bashing Gays, Soft-Selling Your Kinky Side, A Sexual Fresh Start, Teaching A Guy To Be A Dominant

Topics include bisexuality, online dating, introducing a vanilla husband to sexual dominance, re-stoking the sexual fires of a relationship and dealing with potential new playmates who expect a full blown Dominatrix as soon as a woman mentions kink. Show Links: Kink-positive...

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Episode 19 | BDSM Basics Part 2: Negotiating Scenes, Fetish Parties & Clubs, Introducing BDSM To Your Relationship, Listener Questions On Kink

Episode 19 | BDSM Basics Part 2: Negotiating Scenes, Fetish Parties & Clubs, Introducing BDSM To Your Relationship, Listener Questions On Kink

A wrap up on the most basic concepts of BDSM including group play, fetish clubs, negotiating scenes and the meaning of the word "fetish," as well as a couple kink related listener mail items. Show Links: Fetlife.com J.V. on Fetlife Shara on Fetlife Direct...

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Episode 17 | BDSM Basics Part 1: What ‘BDSM’ Means, Marquis DuSade, Sadism vs. Sadomasochism, Safe Words, Munches, BDSM Porn

Episode 17 | BDSM Basics Part 1: What ‘BDSM’ Means, Marquis DuSade, Sadism vs. Sadomasochism, Safe Words, Munches, BDSM Porn

A beginner's guide to understanding BDSM. This jumbo sized episode covers the definitions of: the acronym "BDSM", Bondage and Discipline, Dominance and Submission, Sadism & Masochism as well as Sadomasochism. We also talk about soft limits, hard limits, the...

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